tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7468008418270845225.post403484500558090711..comments2019-06-16T07:48:30.058-07:00Comments on Clinically Awesome: How I Became a Monster, Part IJason Mansfieldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01931242304514657402noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7468008418270845225.post-87609150406601346512016-03-12T08:05:58.308-08:002016-03-12T08:05:58.308-08:00Hello there. Sorry to hear about that, it's a ...Hello there. Sorry to hear about that, it's a ruff thing for both of you. As you may recall, I have the same sort of 'need to fix' issue as you. Here are some things that help me, and may help you. First, keep in mind, there's nothing for you to fix. She's a person not a computer. She's hurting and injured, but not broken. If you try to 'fix' here, you'll only hurt both of you, as you are clearly realizing. Second, if you find you are forcing it, it's not help. That's a hard one, but really matters. She has to work through it in her own way. You can offer, suggest, assist, encourage or even just watch. But if you try to force things, just like with a stuck part, you risk causing damage. Yea, I know... Start off with 'she's not a computer, then jump right to a machine analogy. Just going with what I know we can both relate to. Third, be open and honest. Tell her flat out that you are frustrated, confused, upset and feeling helpless, but you are not going to give up. Let her know that if all you can do is just be there with her, you will do that. Also, ask her for suggestions that she feels may help.<br /><br />I am certain that you have been quite strong for her, don't be. Take a moment and be weak for her. Knowing she's not alone in feeling frightened and helpless can do a lot more then you think. It will also do a lot more for you. That wall isn't doing either of you any good, and if you can drop it for a bit it will help you to reconnect with her. No one does well with things bottled up.<br /><br />Oh, and just in case you don't recognize my screen name, this is Strangefellowe. I sent you an email this morning with my skype name and RL phone number. Yes, it was more then a few years ago, but we used to talk a bit, and I think it would be helpful for us both. I've been having a ruff time as well.<br /><br />Any way, take care. I hope that helps out a bit.<br /><br />I realized I'd goofed a little in my first post, and the only way I was finding to edit was to delete it and repost... Well, I've not really used this before.MstrFoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04272140563477931027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7468008418270845225.post-65722590302526155502016-03-12T08:01:51.874-08:002016-03-12T08:01:51.874-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.MstrFoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04272140563477931027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7468008418270845225.post-85562887903617632202016-02-18T16:57:13.515-08:002016-02-18T16:57:13.515-08:00I think that therapy for BOTH of you is crucial at...I think that therapy for BOTH of you is crucial at this time & I greatly applaud you for going. I dearly hope you both will work this out. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09876255128573824514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7468008418270845225.post-73483241067618043792016-02-18T16:56:13.717-08:002016-02-18T16:56:13.717-08:00I think that therapy for BOTH of you is crucial at...I think that therapy for BOTH of you is crucial at this time & I greatly applaud you for going. I dearly hope you both will work this out. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09876255128573824514noreply@blogger.com